What is Killing Your Relationship?

John Gottman, a researcher and clinician, founded the Gottman Institute dedicated to saving and enriching marriage relationships. One aspect he looks for in marriages is the existence of what he calls the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse which is a metaphor depicting the end times in the New Testament.  They describe conquest, war, hunger and…

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Goodbye 2020… Hello 2021!

Ahh… the new year.  It is a symbol of renewal of life and the birth of new hope.  It bursts with the opportunity for inspiration and motivation to change.  We often reflect this by creating a New Year’s Resolution.   Most people are ready to bid a farewell to 2020, a difficult and stressful year.  Yet…

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The CBT Triangle

How We Can Help

Our Cognitive Triangle Sometimes we get stuck in our own thoughts and it is not a good thing because we might have negative thought patterns. Did you know that our thoughts, feelings and reactions are all connected? So what we think affects how we feel and act. What we do affects how we think and…

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A.N.T.S.

Daniel Amen, M.D and founder of Amen Cinics (www.amenclinics.com) came up with an acronym, A.N.T.S – Automatic Negative Thoughts.  He had come home from work one day, found ants invading his kitchen and thought the ants reminded him of how pervasive and busy some people’snegative thoughts were. We all have a dialogue going on in…

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When You Don’t See Eye To Eye

Some of my friends have decided to remove themselves from social media.  Most are citing negative posts and mean comments when people do not see eye to eye.  They debate the emotional cost of staying connected. “It all feels so stressful.” “I can’t believe my friend believes that!” “No one is listening.” We are living…

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Feelings?? Do I Have To?

For some people, feelings can seem like a bother.  For other people, they push feelings away and dismiss them. But feelings are important. Why is that? First you need to know that in your brain, feelings are being created or triggered all the time. It seems unfortunate to miss all that information that your brain is…

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No Feeling Left Behind

Happy, Sad, Anxious, Scared, Excited, Grumpy, Joyful, Content, Guilty…and the list goes on and on. Emotions are a part of every moment of every day, and whether or not we realize it, they influence the trajectory of our lives.  Although most of us can probably agree that emotions are a part of our everyday lives,…

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Supporting your kids going back to school

There is so much stress surrounding going back to school this year. Parents, teachers and kids are all feeling the pressure and uncertainty.  Parents have had to make tough decisions about what is best for their families surrounding school. Kids are feeling the stress of school looking different this year and not knowing what it…

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